The most telling thing I took from yesterday's uncomfortable process is the swiftness. Once triggered into the Jekyll/Hyde rage "thing" mode, he immediately begins screaming about "I'M CALLING THE POLICE RIGHT NOW!! "
And the entire point here is to show that such a devolution into sheer irrationality, so fast! Threatening to request police intervention when I was just calmly informing him he was being served a certified cease and desist letter.
I mean, every time I listen to the recording, I'm just unable to understand where that "pavlovian" type knee-jerk response is always where he takes things. "I'M CALLING THE POLICE RIGHT NOW!!!" (listen to the previous post recording).
Anyway, in his best interest, I felt compelled, once more, to attempt to explain to him the basics of the law regarding frivolous 911/PD interventions when there is absolutely no crisis, emergency, threat, or other domestic event that would warrant the use of such valuable resources (our HPD).
Here is a copy of the email I later sent to him, after I figured he'd transformed back into his normal self, explaining how unwise it is to make frivolous 911 calls.
My later email tactfully discussing the dangers of making unwarranted 911 ccalls come with consequences.
It's also important to post here as it exemplifies my CONSTANT attempt to do things ecumenically or, in a way that solves the problem with all parties benefitting as this is how I've approached the genuine problem for almost 20 years now, respect, transparency, frankness, honesty, etc.:
"Hi there,
I'd like you to please receive this as a dialogue based on my genuine desire to improve our relationship, to address things properly, factually, respectfully, and most of all, out of love. I believe I have done (and documented) this quite adequately.
Regarding my simple delivery of a letter and your (expected) rage episode that exploded immediately after; above all, I'm just dumbfounded as to why you would not want to work through these things like ordinary folk: dialogue, discussion, and points being allowed to be made without being screamed over.
This is where you should pay close attention...
The point is that had you called the police simply because I delivered you a certified, formal letter, it would surely have been classified as a "false 911 call," for which you'd likely be charged, as I was simply and calmly delivering a letter. There was no emergency, threat, or crisis—just me delivering you a letter.
Hence, of course there was no need for the police, and I promise they would have spent more time with you than with me.
Why you knee-jerk into this "I'm CALLING THE POLICE!" response? It is entirely irrational and will get you into trouble if you call without any merit; just a friendly tip. But what, in all honesty, is that about? When you just suddenly transform into a rage-filled 12 year old (ed: could have approached that better) and thinking you need to call the cops? That's dangerous for you and others as well...
However, you need to know that making random, warrantless calls for police intervention in a truly non-emergency circumstance, generally results in the caller (you) suffering consequences, jail time or charges.
There are some things to consider before calling the Police when there is no legitimate reason to do so (like today when I simply delivered you a letter).
So think about things: wait for that rage demon to calm and before reverting into the rage state that I was fully expecting today wherein your consistent (and totally unwise) reaction is “I’M CALLING THE POLICE!!” and “YOUR CRAZY” … which today anyway, would have gone much worse for you than me.
All the responsive police would have to do is listen to the 4 minute recording I made and have already published and they would immediately understand, just via listening to our exchange (if you can call it that) that you've certainly got some demonstrable emotional/rage issues.
Had you called the police? You'd have likely been charged with a "false 911 call."
FYI.
Some good reading material if you can muster the strength to actually read:
From a legal site: "a person can face legal trouble if they call the police to intervene in a situation where there is no demonstrable reason for doing so, as this is often considered a "false 911 call" and can be classified as a crime depending on the jurisdiction and the intent behind the call; potential consequences include fines and even jail time.
Key points to remember:
If you call the police with the genuine belief that an emergency exists, even if it turns out to be a misunderstanding, you are less likely to face legal repercussions compared to making a call with malicious intent to harass someone.
Specific laws regarding false 911 calls can differ by state or municipality, so it's important to understand the regulations in your area.
Potential consequences of a false call:
Fines: You may be required to pay a fine for the unnecessary police response.
Civil liability: In some cases, the person you falsely reported could sue you for damages.
Criminal charges: Depending on the circumstances and your intent, you could face criminal charges for filing a false police report."
Interesting information but it's certainly worth considering, especially if a peson finds his/herself suddenly engraged and callin for police intervention when there is no situation or crisis. I figured you would know that.
With love,
Joel"
I did not have to inform him with that email.
Still, I felt it was yet another opportunity to tactfully educate the man that he would be getting himself into trouble if making warrantless requests for police intervention as, unbelievably, he did yesterday, simply due to being so offended that I would DARE present HIM with a civil request that (in the end) he simply cannot ignore; brushing these meaningful conversations off, even ridiculing me as my desire for dialogue is just more proof of my mental disorder is his "modus operandi" ... "your crazy" ... "go away!" ... "I don't have to read shit!" ... "don't you ever say anything about ME EVER!" etc. (see recording where he repeatedly, once completely gone full infantile, says, "See! Your paranoia is going to be the end of you!" lol ... there's that word again, "paranoia" ... a useful response mechanism, I believe but certainly not a factor here.
When the lovely irony is that there was not a shred of paranoia on my part in deciding to serve the letter, just a genuine desire to look at the remainder of my life and identify false/unlawful claims that will affect the rest of my days here unless I force things into a venue where he will have no choice but to listen.
Empowerment is a thing...
In other words, for once, he was in a position where he could not just talk over me and that, if necessary, if his constant propagation of this schizo myth continued, it would indeed then proceed into a proper civil suit/court-dictated scenario which I am well prepared for.
I would rather avoid that, but I am fully prepared and "tooled-up" to take on if necessary (that's what's known as a "Cease and desist order", which is a genuine legal document that does move matters of conflict into a litigation environment.
The Cease and desist letter I served yesterday is only a civic (but bindingly legal) request, a letter that a certain, highly damaging behavior cease immediately.
"I DON'T HAVE TO TALK TO ANYBODY!" ... "I DON'T HAVE TO READ THAT LETTER" ... "KNOWBODY SAYS ANYTHING ABOUT *ME*!, YOU GET THAT!" ... and especially, the complete insanity of him claiming over and over during his psychotic break that "I DIDN'T TELL A SINGLE LIE THAT DAY DURING THE WELLFARE CHECK!@!!" ... which, ashamedly, I am pretty happy to have recorded as he did lie, in a hugely proveable way that day back in 2023, but simply cannot understand facts and thinks what he claimed (my having been (ever!) officially and professionally, being diagnosed with Paranoid Schizophrenia. But as I say over and over and over ... I truly believe he is not at fault but is, sadly, just incapable off reasonable discussion if anything at all indicates his self as a part of the problem. This does not negate the very real need for me to pursue the truth of things and make this person (or any other) fully aware of the unlawfulness of making frank, damning claims of any other person being mentally ill, much less, officially diagnosed as such ... an event which has never even remotely occurred in my life.
That is an elementary point that would be effortless to address and reverse in a civil court arena, but it never need come to that if he simply considers the contents of my request seriously.
He will either adjust his behavior according to the demands made therein or continue in the madness of telling people some physician (with the ability to do so) had actually ever diagnosed me with that disorder, or any other mental disorder for that matter (again, so quickly and enjoyably proveable in a legal arena as false/untrue if that worst case scenario unfolds).
Not his fault...
He's obviously not aware that he lied to the MHD field team with whom I had a wonderful dialogue on 12/11/23.
Inwardly, he truly believes his opinion alone is enough to make such claims truthful. Still, he did not begin the dialogue with the lead field officer that day, stating, for instance, "This is just my opinion, but there have been times when Joel has seemed to be a bit paranoid." That would have been perfectly okay by me.
Yet that is altogether different than MATTER OF FACTLY claiming to the attending officer that day that I, indeed, had been OFFICIALLY DIAGNOSED WITH PARANOID SCHIZOPHRENIA by some treating physician with the ability to make such diagnosis' (AFAIK, only a psychiatrist can do that and only a psychiatrist can then treat said illness via medications).
BTW, a bit of useful trivia?: in general, a true diagnosis of paranoid schizophrenia, according to online records/journals, generally takes a bare minimum of three months of intensive work with a PSYCHIATRIST, which is undoubtedly no relationship I've ever experienced. I've had no notable relationship with any PSYCHIATRIST EVER, much less a protracted relationship with such a "professional."
Hence, indeed, he lied in a really gross way that day, but no rational dialogue could convince him otherwise.
Hoping for reason...
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This post supplements the facts made public on my main website, http://www.jbhfile.com/; it probably will not make much sense to you if you have not already become aware of the legal and personal efforts discussed there. Please see http://www.jbhfile.com/ for a necessary introduction to why this blog exists. Or, if you just like reading weird stuff, then don't. And, enjoy.
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