cleaned bath and vacuumed, mopped housewide floors
Organized new/waiting quickbooks work.
Received request from ACCT for necessary documents needed to complete TOMMY 2025 personal TAX return. Gambling W-2G’s from multiple states, Visa D BLANCO K-1, something called “Contribution Statement” I assume has to do with Church/etc. As well as TOMMMY primary FIDELITY brokerage 1099 statement.
Logged into TOMMY Fidelity brokerage account and printed 2025 1099 information requested by ACCT
Message ACCT back with Fidelity 1099 attached as PDF and informed that I would be working with TOMMY to collect the other requested documents
Logged into TOMMY main Fidelity brokerage portal, located documents archive and printed ACCT requested 2025 tax documents to be forwarded to ACCT.
Found examples of previous years ACCT requested files (Vista Del Blanco, W-2G’s and edited each in Photoshop with large “EXAMPLE” notice overlay so that Tommy could use those as reference to find the same 2025 files that were requested by ACCT today
While I'm at it.
The Dad/Tommy tax stuff mentioned above is something I've done each year for the past few years.
It's an example of how, just about 100% of the time, the normal and highly personal work he has to do, like any other citizen, is always gathered, organized, and ultimately provided to any given agency or service provider by me.
I mean things like the tax documents we all have to deal with every year or other mundane, civic stuff like renewing one's car registration, mailing voter registration forms, scheduling long-term parking arrangements when traveling, etc.
To repeat for the nth time, I don't mind doing this stuff at all. Some of it is very basic work but work that still requires I use my main tool sets that I've come to know and love (photoshop, video editors, etc.) so for me, it's just further opportunity to keep those basic skills working and improving even.
Here is an example of such...
Today, the Dad's ("Tommy's") accountant copied me on a direct message requesting a set of certain, Tommy/Dad-specific documents that he still needed before he could complete Tommy's 2025 personal tax return.
So, as with previous years, it falls on me to organize the location process of these important documents since my father is not capable of doing things like logging on to Fidelity (his investment brokerage), locating the documents archive, and then saving the necessary 1099 file or files as a PDF to then send to his ACCT. Not to speak ill of Tommy, but he wouldn't be able to simply save the PDF and then attach it to an email, much less log on to his brokerage and drill down through the menu system to locate the file(s) in the first place
So I always end up doing anything like that as well as my own yearly, similar personal work.
Most of the data requested by my Dad's ACCT today is stuff I'm only vaguely familiar with, and only because I recall a bit about such data from the previous year's tax period.
But for most of it, I had to go into our personal and company-related cloud storage server, find my scans from previous years, and edit those documents so Tommy could have a visual reference for what the ACCT is requesting.
For the previous year example documents, to be sure that Tommy did not confuse them with something currently important, I loaded each archived PDF into Photoshop and simply put a large, diaganol "EXAMPLE" overlay spanning the entire document and faded to about 30% opacity so Tommy would know they were only examples of the 2025 documents that his ACCT is currently in need of.
That's the sort of thing I'm providing him as the first steps in getting his personal tax documents organized and finally sent to his ACCT.
Living off the teet'....
As several articles published here already make clear, I am constantly subjected to sarcastic comments from all of Tommy's immediate friends and even, frequently, subtly alluded to by direct family members that I am somehow "living off the teet'," so to speak.
I mean, for the 9 years that I've lived here, immediatley taking on every bit of my father's personal needs when it comes to such matters as taxes, car and insurance information, travel arrangements, medical stuff, ... I've heard these often times snide comments from such people about "not paying rent," or "being taken care of by your Daddy" or some other humerous but still sharp, toothy comment like that.
But the fact is, every single time I have a basic physical encounter with my Dad as we go about our lives here in our shared household, I am hit with SOME kind of request. I literally manage and organize every important aspect of his personal/administrative life. This includes 100% responsibility in regards to the maintenance and upkeep of the household, the building out of his company transition office space here at the house, the installation and constant tuning of the housewide network via which all of our home computers can "speak" to one another, the management of all home and business phone system matters (VOIP system), and really anything else one might think of (fridgerator repairs, fixing the TV, sink/plumbing work, car repairs ... I could go on and on).
To repeat, these tasks are not bothersome; without them to do, frankly, I'd be bored as shit. But I do have to schedule my life so that everything can be done (inverted sleep schedule, etc.). Hence, generally, when he is waking, I am going to sleep, and when he is going to sleep, I'm just starting my work.
This is so systematic, so consistently demonstrable that I actually started keeping a personal log of such moments simply because the psychological/social aspect of it is fascinating to me. And my somewhat rigorous, simple but technically, scientific experiment proved 100% true. Generally, he'll ask me to do something for him, find something for him or remind him of something within the first 2 to 5 seconds of any encounter throughout any given day.
Like clockwork! lol!
This is also why I inverted our schedules (sleep/wake times) several years ago. Without a hard set of rules defining when I sleep and when I wake/work, there is no way I would be able to get anything done as he would constantly be hovering over me or randomly seeking me out throughout any given day to request something or ask for assistance with something.
The inverted schedule works very well. And it also make seeing to all of the requests and personal work I do for him that would otherwise be done by himself (like you or me) possible to do!
But in the end?
And something that deserves its own multi-page post here and that I will actually post more about is that I QUIETLY see each of these moments as an opportunity to do something for a man whom I genuinely care for.
I understand my time here is a unique window of opportunity to assist my father at a time that is plainly difficult for him (aging, later years, planning for one's passing, a failing business, etc.). And I emphasize that I enjoy and do these things "QUIETLY" because to even so much as hint at any actual need on his part is to trigger his odd, masculine sort of typical reaction of "Me! I'm fine! I don't need help with anything!" etc. etc.
Just his thing, maybe generational, maybe related to being an only child, I don't know but I learned a long while back that mentioning he might need assistances with something is to trigger that typical reaction.
So, much like Amelie in that great film by the same name, I just kinda plan and think ahead and assist him in any way that I can, whether I'm asked to or not. I feel good about doing such work and have no need to tell anybody short of posting things like I'm posting here, and due to this constant, seemingly universal social point of view that anybody my age living with a well-to-do father is most certainly taking advantage of the father.
It got so bad at one point that I asked that he hire a lawyer to completely write me out of any inheritance or will proceeds.
My siblings are living their lives in different cities or parts of the state, already salivating over all the shiny things they expect to get when the poor guy passes, one even going so far as to say it outright once. Already circling like jackals or something. It's horrible to watch.
So I wanted and want nothing to do with all of that inheritance bullshit and thought the easiest way would be to find some way to absolutely and legally bow out of being included as a beneficiary of any kind since that would free me up to do so much of the work that I do for him without the gross, familial gossip and suspiscions that so often surround a person's passing and the alloting of things to beneficiaries. Such an ugly mess.
But I found that whole legal thing to be more problematic than it was useful so I long ago ceased in those pursuits.
But mostly, I was cued by my work log that I could post a small example of the organizational/civic/personal stuff I do for my Dad that nobody is ever aware of. This too circles back to why the folks at Texas Health/Human Resources said I should document everything because they were well aware of that common family/social dynamic, especially among siblings.
So, as long as I live in this odd little void/bubble, I will continue to publish as was suggested I do.
